i'm 21 years old and currently in a relationship with a baptised jw.
i have been studying with the jws for 2 years before we met.
well, i have to admit, i did not enjoy studying with them until about 10 months ago when i became interested of digging the "truth" although it means my sources was only the jw.
I still peek in at the forum.
Sun_dae, listen to what they have to say. If he loves you for your involvement with the JWs, and you don't want to be there, I don't see much hope for a successful relationship.
In fairness to both of you, be honest with him. Let the dust settle and see where you are. If the situation isn't good, move on with your life. Look for someone who loves you for what you really are.
sorry if the title sounded funky.....but it fit.. has anyone besideds me noticed how nealy ever instance of a birth mentioned in the bible was a boy?.
i realise that women were also born, or there wouldn't be a jewish race...but why are most births recorded of the bible hero's mostly or nearly all men?.
eve has cain, able, and seth.. noah has 3 sons.. abraham has children by two women...ishmael by hagar, and issac by sarai.. issac has esau and jacob.. jacob has twelve sons...mostly by rebeccah's maidservant except for joseph.. yes, some of these ones had other sons and daughters....but it seems it was the males who always were the first out of the chute.
Gill, it is really only quite orthodox religious Jews who follow the rules for "Family Purity" (which are more complex than just counting days). I have loads of Jewish friends who live a more "ordinary life" from what they have said. I do believe that you are quite correct, though, about that being the reason for a greater number of male offspring.
my daughter (15) has been invited to go to a jw wedding reception with her boyfriend's family and she would like to know what to expect.
the ceremony is family only so she will just be going to the dinner/dance.
not sure whether she might be "lovebombed" or shunned (doesn't that sound like a fun evening??
Hi Concerned Mom,
I still can't get over the differences in situations for our daughters. Your daughter is actually invited to go somewhere with her JW bf and his family, and my daughter was never even invited over to her ex bf's house(in over 2 years). I guess the big difference is in how zealous the respective families are, and my daughter's ex is from a very hard core, zealous, multi-generational family.
The good part of all of this was that she got so upset with and tired of their unpleasantness, that it contributed to the breakup, and she is long over the boy (and all the JW drama that came with him). He was a nice kid.....but it was all too much. Thank goodness, she has moved on.
concerned mama
....for 2004 is from downunder!!.
one of the advantages of living in the land downunder is that we see the light of every new day before most of the world.
some days we wish we didn't perhaps but today, noel, noel!!.
Merry Christmas, Ozzie and Mrs.Ozzie.
concerned mama
(8:16am, Dec 24 on the Canadian prairie)
i am the mother of one teenage daughter.
i don't really know where i am going with this post -- i just know that i feel like i am going crazy.
my daughter is 14 and is a very smart kid.
Both Cicatrix and Concerned Mom have mentioned the private time in the car being a time you can talk. I sure agree with them, and have had some wonderful private conversations with my kids driving to band or swimming or ballet. The enclosed space can give a sense of intimacy and make it easier for them to talk about personal issues or something that is bothering them. I wonder if sometimes, being able to look out the window or the fact you aren't staring into their faces, makes it easier to talk. My daughter will get her licence sometime this year, and I will have to make time for those personal moments to continue.
i am the mother of one teenage daughter.
i don't really know where i am going with this post -- i just know that i feel like i am going crazy.
my daughter is 14 and is a very smart kid.
Purza, as the mother of a 21 year old and almost 17 year old, I can tell you that even fantastic, well behaved teenagers drive you crazy sometimes. They have different priorities and are really wanting to do what they want, which isn't always what you want, or at least when you want it.
There has been some interesting articles (I think it was in Time magazine) on brain development in teens, and the changes, especially in the areas involved in organization. I will embed a webste that looks pretty good. There are physical reasons why they think differently.
There is an interesting book called "Queen Bees and Wannabees" by Rosalind Wiseman, about teen girl culture. Also "Reviving Ophelia". Some situations in the books are pretty extreme and don't apply in my daughter's life. Worth a read, anyway. Most libraries have them.
I am a pretty strict Mom, but not JW kind of strict.(I have never beena JW) What works for us is to make sure we talk a lot, and I have to LISTEN to her, but not always agree. I try to be consistant, but not rigidly so. Flexible with good reason. Explain myself. Good/reasonable behavior earns trust. I am happy to take the blame when peer pressure is hard ("my Mom would kill me if I......"). All of us have to be courteous to each other . We ALL call home if we will be delayed. Teach her to stay safe. Pick your battles. Explain why.....let her explain why. Compromise....my kid's rooms aren't as neat as I would like them, but they are reasonable. If she doesn't take reasonable care of her clothes, she doesn't get new ones..and my girl LOVES clothes.
Hug her every day and tell her how much you love her and value her. Appreciate and recognise her good decisions, because sometimes they are really hard. Remember to give attention to the positive things, not just the things she has done wrong. Apologize when you screw up. Model the behavior you expect from her.
Both of you will survive it, and most of the time can be pretty terrific watching her grow up.
i'm thinking through my new position on blood transfusions, and would appreciate your 'pearls of wisdom.
i now feel that, while a blood transfusion is still dangerous, i would accept it as a last resort, if all else failed.
i would not die, or allow any of my family to die, for want of a transfusion of plasma, platelets, or red or white cells.
Well put, TD.
Please see point 12.
stuck in the middle of friggin nowhere,actually 50 miles north of nowhere!(lol!
) so far i`ve survived fire storms,drought,floods,snow storms,wild animals,bin robbed and left for dead.this just isn`t any fun (lol!
).i`ll be making my way back to civilization shortly.i`ve found a public library to post from,thank god and simon,my ciber home is still here..so how`s your day been going?...outlaw
Hi Outlaw,
Nice to meet you. It looks like you're in sunny Alberta, too.
has anybody seen dave reed?i heard that he stopped publishing his newsletter and his email on his site no longer works.it is because of this man and jesus that i am free from the watchtower today.anybody seen him?
carmel,
LOL.
has anybody seen dave reed?i heard that he stopped publishing his newsletter and his email on his site no longer works.it is because of this man and jesus that i am free from the watchtower today.anybody seen him?
I have a lot of Jewish friends. If there is one thing that drives them nuts about Christians (some Christians) is the prosetylizing so many Christians do. They find it highly offensive. I wish David Reed and anyone else trying to convert Jews would just leave them alone. Their religion is their own business.
